The attitudes of successful people are generally smooth, calm, and conquered. Their actions are controlled, and are usually always within a parameter of being socially acceptable. Most successful people who have learned how to influence others, at some point looked at himself or herself to see where they might need to adjust their attitude. In other words, they monitored their consciousness of how they appear to other people when they are in a crowd, and/or alone. The positive person generates a positive experience where ever they are.
Prominent psychologist Gordon Allport once described attitudes “the most distinctive and indispensable concept in contemporary social psychology.” Wikipedia
They obviously have taken the time to evaluate other people’s annoying attitudes and know that sarcasm and disrespect for anyone is frowned upon. The right attitude when addressing, conversing, or intermingling with others dictates your personal mannerisms, and thereby dictates your influence. This is why we wanted to ask this question: Is Your Attitude Hurting Your Influence?
If you desire to get other people’s attention quickly, just give them a sarcastic answer, remark, or always a joke and you will receive it. Of course, that attention is not going to be positive. It will be negative and reduce your ability to become a person of greater influence.
The right attitude can inflict confidence, respect, honor, and knowledge. It will carry with it the ability to influence others in a positive light. However, the wrong attitude and uncontrolled impulses can cause disrespect and avoidance by others. The interruption of uncontrolled behaviors can be described as insecurities, fear, lack of discipline, disrespect for others, no self-respect, no scrutiny of self, and the inability to interact with other individuals.
- If you have ever watched other people interact in a crowd of people, you have probably noticed the person who is always making a joke of everything. Some may think it is cute, others wonder how in the world he has made it thus far in life if everything is a joke.
- Next is the person who walks up and interrupts the conversation without standing and waiting first to see what the conversation is about.
- Then you have the person who is glaring across the room and has not heard a word you said, and you have just wasted your time trying to converse with him or her.
- After this, you have the person who knows everything you have said already, takes over the conversation, and makes you look like a fool. (This is actually reversed.)
- Finally, you have the individual that everyone wants to talk to. They are calm, reserved, look you in eye when you are talking, and know every word you have said. They are listeners, you have their full attention, and they will respond with something that suites the conversation. If it is business, it will be intellectual, productive, and educational.
Influential individuals are not people who force themselves to standout in the crowd. They just have a knack for being themselves, knowing when, and when not to speak up. They listen, observe, and their speech is consistent, informative and does not force critique of anyone else.
Some people are just good at being a influential person who knows how to make other people feel comfortable, easy to talk to, and without any hypocrisy. These kinds of individuals make excellent leaders.
If you have a good attitude, you do not have to be brilliant to succeed. Your attitude a lot of time is what gets you the promotion, attention, fulfillment of your dreams.