The_SelfBuilding your self-image or confidence is a necessary exercise for many of us. If self-confidence does not come naturally, building it up takes deliberate, conscious effort. While no systematic program is perfect, the following are some steps that may help you build up your sense of confidence, and a greater self-image.

Take a trip down memory lane also and give yourself some praise. Think about all you have done so far, and accept the fact that you applied your talents and expertise to have those accomplishments.



Write them down. Make a list of your goals, long and short term, and then below each goal write the steps it will take to get there. For example, if one of your goals is to get a high salary in your current job, your list might look like this:

  1. Study all policies and procedures of the department you work in.
  2. Learn and study the organizational culture of the company. Learn about the past and present accomplishments of the company. Study and be able to talk about each of these: values, products, visions, and how your department has influenced in the overall goals of the company.
  3. Perfect your work to make sure you are meeting the policies of your department, and work ethics.
  4. If this salary increase will make you a leader, make sure that you have leadership qualities, and have interpersonal skills. (Learn more about leadership skills here). The latter is very important, and essential.
  5. Be yourself, unique, enthusiastic, positive, and spontaneous.
  6. If this does not work out this time to your expectations, do not give up. Keep improving your skills, habits, relationships, and goals. There could be other reasons that have nothing to do with you. Then, try again. Never give up. You may have to consider taking other steps to achieve your goals. Read about this here.

Whether its relationships, business ventures, self-improvement, or just getting that raise as mentioned above, there are first steps needed. Writing your goals and their necessary steps can make those goals much less formidable and much more doable. That alone helps you feel more confident in moving forward.

Woman 3Comparing Yourself to Someone Else is a No-No

While it is good to aspire toward self-improvement, constantly comparing yourself to the best of the best in your realm can get discouraging. For example, if you’d like to have a talk radio show or Podcast, you might be inspired by high-profile radio hosts; being inspired by them is fine, but beating yourself up because you are not exactly like they are – complete with millions of listeners – will only discourage you.

Build a Positive Self-Image

It seems that when you are just certain you are going to fail before you try something, you are more likely to fail when you do try it. If you have a negative self-image and think you just cannot achieve anything, it is likely that you will not – thus underscoring this false impression about yourself. Stop listening to the negative inner voice and instead tell yourself that you can achieve your goals and, even if you fail, it is not because you are a bad person or because you did not try.

Get to Know Yourself – it is imperative for your to build your self image without knowing who you are.

This means spending some quiet time thinking or writing in a journal – some quiet time by yourself in which you assess your strengths, weaknesses, and personality. What are your character traits? What quirks and talents do you have? Pretend as if you are being interviewed and that the interviewer is trying to get to know you. What questions would they ask? When you are getting to know yourself, be honest with yourself also. If there needs to be some correction, do it. Building a sincere and honest self-image will get you everywhere, when trying to be like someone else will get you nowhere.

Turn off the Media

For a while, it might be good to turn off the TV and put down the magazines. The perfect-people images found in the media can be discouraging for those who are struggling with self-confidence or is trying to build your self-image.

Remember this….

No man or woman is an island. We all need others from time to time after we have looked within us to see our strengths, and potential. Each individual has his or her own unique character, personality, possibilities, potential, strengths, and courage.

Another human cannot measure your self-worth. You must see your self-image as a positive self-image with potential, talents and benefits. We each have our own special capabilities and it is up to each individual to see those within themselves and apply their God given talents of self-discipline, and perseverance to make our dreams come true. Your self-image is a very important aspect of being successful, in your own eyes, and other’s as well. Just be yourself….never change who you are.




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