As a parent, there is seemingly no end to the tips and advice you get from guides, parenting gurus or other parents. With words of wisdom so readily available, many parents look to other sources for help over their own parental instincts. Is raising your child best left to the experts or can you trust your parenting instincts? Are your parenting instincts trustworthy?
The Most Beautiful Child On The Block
Little girls especially are sometimes so beautiful that they can absolutely do no wrong, or at least some parents think. They become rather spoiled, know how to get their way, and know what will turn the parents attention to something other than discipline.
Their sweet little actions, makes us forget what we were previously concerned about, and melts our hearts. What happens when a child, boy or girl receives praise for wrong doing, or not minding?
They could become children that always want to be first in line, first in complements, first in everything. They could also want the moon, and you could only provide the necessities of life. Yet you try to make them happy because that is what you have always done. Then the child become angry and will tell you that you do not love them. Throws fits, slams doors, and is disrespectful.
At some point, which should have been earlier in their life, (sorry, just facts), they have to learn what the real world is like. There are many things that can crop up when a child has no discipline. They can become very defiant children.
Should You Trust Your Parenting Skills?
Only if you are teaching your child how to live in a world that demands discipline. On all sides of life as adults one must subscribe to rules, regulations and cater to other people when necessary.
Now If You Are a Balanced Parent…..
Trust Your Feelings
It is true that no one knows your kids better than you do, as their parent. When it comes to what they like or what makes them more comfortable, you have a clearer understanding of your children than anyone does. Of course, this awareness does not happen right away. You did not understand all of your baby’s needs from the moment they were born. However, you have been with them all of their lives, learning what they like, dislike and need. If following the advice of others does not feel right for you or your kids, chances are that it is not.
Do Not Take Things Too Far
While going with your gut could be the best thing to do in some situations, it can be easy to rely too heavily on your feelings. Even if you know your kids better than anyone else does, everybody makes mistakes. If you listen to your instincts alone every time, it will not be long before you make a decision that is not the best for you or your kids.
It is important to take some time to consider each situation and decide what your instincts are telling you to do. Sometimes it can be difficult to see what is best for our kids, because our gut wants us to do what makes them happy.
In order to avoid investing too much in either the advice of others or our own (sometimes-misguided) instincts, it is important to become accustomed to relying a bit on both. If the advice you hear lines up with what your gut was telling you, it may mean that you were right in the first place.
Other parents do not know every detail of your own family’s unique situation, but their tips can still bring a fresh perspective. It never hurts to learn a bit about parenting styles or strategies different from your own. Nevertheless, it is also up to you to decide which of these will work for your family and which one gives you the best feeling.
While your parenting instincts are by no means foolproof, it is important that you consider them when you make decisions that affect you or your family. When it comes down to whether, or not a particular parenting strategy will work, only you could know about many important factors.
However, no one is perfect and no parent comes up with the best solution to every one of life’s conundrums. While you cannot always trust your parenting instinct, you should always listen to it and consider what your feelings tell you about a situation. After all, if you cannot trust your own parenting instinct at all, how can you trust the instincts of another parent?