Not anyone is born with all the skills needed to master all of life. Skills must be adapted to become more proficient at all things, especially communication skills in the workplace, and life in general. Most of us need a little assistance to be spectacular at anything. All it takes is a little self-acknowledgement of what we need to focus on.
With that said, just how good are you at communication skills in the workplace and in all of your life? Do you pay attention to the very important mechanisms that can help when handling and controlling your conversations with others? Communication is one of the most important skills for dealing with other people effectively, whether at home or work and it is more than speaking, it is non-verbal communication as well.
It starts with the job interview, and continues even when you reach the top of the ladder in management. One must be able to converse with the interviewer, employer, or executive head and give solid, strong, and informative answers. Communication is more than just talking. It is also about when to listen, and when to talk less. It is about understanding.
It is easy in any conversation to try too hard to make ourselves understood. However, it is important to focus on making sure we know there are no underlying meanings, word, or conjectures that imply something we have not said. Working on the latter will increase our ability to make sure our words are words we actually meant to say.
Many older presuppositions about our personalities or interpersonal skills told us that we as humans are born with our sometimes-impossible attributes and cannot change whom we are. We have characteristics that some do not own, while others have certain skills and qualities that we do not have. This older premise is just not correct. We can change our skills, and increase our skills to become better at whatever we so desire.
Today, we know better. We know that we have the ability to change our mindset and, therefore, improve our capacity for learning in leaps and bounds. No longer is the status quo necessary. We can grow and strive to achieve more academically and, therefore, in life.
Choose Your Words Carefully
Each one of us go through our days speaking our mind often without thinking that our words have consequences. We say things without giving it much thought and sometimes even holding things in and not speaking up for ourselves only to berate ourselves later on for doing so. If you take a moment to recognize and record the words you use daily, you may come to realize that the words you choose might directly relate to the mindset you have.
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What is a Mindset?
A mindset is the mental attitude you adopt which dictates how you will or will not perceive, react and respond to situations. Why is it important? Your mindset can and will determine your life from academics to career and beyond. Can you improve your mindset? Yes, of course one can, but another day, another time. ‘Smile’
The way you interpret your situation communicates to your brain. When it comes to intelligence, you may have a long-standing belief that you are either one way or another. For example, you may feel that you are average and are not questioning that old, limiting, and long-standing belief. It is important to communicate effectively by choosing the thoughts that will change the outcome.
For example, there have been many firsts in your life. You had to allow your first child get on the bus to go to kindergarten without you there. The next child it was a little easier and by the third child, if you had one, this task was not as big of a deal as the first time you had to face it.
By communicating to yourself that you can and will get through the many things that life sends your way, you are able to meet and face more and more challenges along the way. More importantly, you get to do it with ease and grace, as long as you communicate to yourself that, you can and are able to do so.
Communication is so much more than the words you speak to yourself, it is also the thoughts you think. When you challenge yourself and achieve, you reset the communication bar. You allow yourself to see that not only can you achieve more by learning new things and taking on more challenges, but you also get to see that you can take on a growth mindset instead of a limiting one. All of the above will be reflected in your self-image.
Misunderstanding What Others Say- We Stop Listening
Too often, we misinterpret another person’s words. We assume they are saying one thing, and actually, they were saying something very different. We hear the word (s) that sounds like they are accusing us of something without listening to the entire sentence or conversation. We stop listening. This can leave bad feelings, and misunderstanding. When this occurs, one should politely ask if they could repeat what they were saying, and their intended meaning.
In all conversations or communication, listening is important. If you do not listen to the entire conversation, and fit it all together appropriately, something of importance will be lost. It is part of communications, and without listening the communication is broken.