Just as we need to keep our physical health in tact; we often need a checkup for our outlook on life and our surroundings. We are often bombarded with life things that deter our living successfully with believing the negative, instead of the positive.
What is the definition of a “positive attitude?”
According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary- An attitude is a mental position with regard to a fact or state, a feeling or emotion to a fact or state.” With the word positive in front of that: you have something that has a favorable and optimistic outlook on whatever subject it is.
Here are examples of positive individuals:
- Looks on the bright side of life, and not the dark side.
- Believes that a situation will end well, instead of bad.
- Has a concrete knowing that it is never too late to accomplish something good.
- Knows that life is full of setbacks, however all things come together if one presses forward.
- They are cheerful, they smile, they consider other people’s feelings, and they are not out to just promote themselves.
- Regardless of how bad they hurt from a bad situation, they know they will survive and be a better person.
- They believe in themselves, however, they also believe in others.
- They do not sit back and wait for others to make them happy, they reach forward with the talents and inspiration that are inside of them.
- A positive mind, finds solutions to problems, and finds what has been learned instead of what has been defeated.
- A positive person knows that they have far more good within their life, than difficulty. This reflects in their work with other people, and their entire life. Gratitude is an important factor.
Here are some questions for our checklist:
- Are you constantly inundated by thoughts of negativity or plagued by feelings of insecurity?
- Do you see everything in a negative manner?
- Do you limit your productiveness by fear?
- Are you afraid to step forward with your knowledge, and talents, thinking someone else may be better?
- Do you not trust yourself?
- Do you limit yourself in most situations as not having sufficiency?
- Do you search out the negative in all situations before looking at the possibilities?
- Do you often feel less than enough?
The reason for this lies deep within your heart.
You are what you intellectually and spiritually consume. If you are constantly in the presence of doubt, mistrust, fear, anger, and frustrations, you are limiting your ability to live a positive life, and have a positive attitude.
A person is affected by their surroundings, what they allow themselves to participate in or dwell upon. It is hard not to pick up habits of other individuals if you are around them long enough and your conversations are conclusively negative.
This is the time to change your course. By looking at your thoughts, your actions, the actions of the people you are around, you can get your life back to a growth attitude. You have to stop feeding your mind negative things, and make that clear to those around you. It is time to check your thoughts to get the negative out and the positive in.
What do negative thoughts look like? Well, they start with can’t rather than can, no as opposed to yes, will instead of will not. Negative thoughts will sabotage your strengths, stop production in your life, and can make you cease from attempting new things.
The Bible, which is the greatest self-help book ever written, speaks volumes about taking every thought captive, while dwelling on what is truth. The problem in our society has become that our thoughts have taken us captive. We have begun to let our thoughts control us.
A great way to know what we are negative about is to ask the positive people who are closest to us.
- Ask your spouse or another person in your life who really knows you,
- Ask how they would rate your attitude on a scale of one to ten. Ten being super positive subjects, and one super negative.
- Ask this person to be very honest with you. You will benefit from their honesty even if it causes you pain.
- Have the person tell you what it is that you specifically say that they perceive as negative.
- Write down what they say and look at the actual words.
- Makes notes of your negative thoughts produced by the person above, and think of your own so that you can stop them.
Now is the time to be honest with yourself. Those words are a reflection of what is inside you. They are who you are. The great thing is that you can change. It is as simple as making a choice to do so. You must decide to replace the thoughts of negativity with thoughts of positivity. Decide what words you will change the negative words to, on your paper. Once you have done this, make an effort to insert these new positive thoughts in your mind. You will begin to notice a positive change-taking place in your life. Your family, friends, and co-workers will all notice it as well. They may not know what is different about you. However, they will know that you are not the same person that you were.
The items, which are causing negativity in your life, could very well be the news, movies; constantly replaying tragedy in your mind and the list could go on. These things should be eliminated if you want your new mental health regimen to be a success. It is important to try to seek out things that are positive especially while you are trying to transform your mind into a state of positivity.
There are certain times within our life that it is important to grieve, or remember, such as loss. However, if a person constantly replays the negative events in their minds it can lead to depression. If the person who has gone away is not coming back, then we must close that chapter in our life and move on to the next chapter. This is a difficult task, which can only be accomplished by making a decision to proceed with our own life, no matter how hard it may be.
You can and will have a positive attitude, if you simply take the steps outlined above. You do not have to be what you were in the past, or what someone else is. You can be you in a different manner in the future. The choice is yours, and you have to make a positive one. Remember that “balance” is key!